The Greatest Thing You Can Do For The Men In Your Life, Part 3

Posted by on Jul 18, 2012 in Uncategorized, Writing | 14 Comments

Below is a guest post by my lovely fiancé, Alyssa Fenton. You can chat with her, give her feedback, or ask her something on her twitter here. I know she’d love to hear from you. Man, I’m so thankful for this woman and thankful she prays for me. Hope the below post encourages.

“And He said to him, ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment.”

Matthew 22:37-38

“The friendship of the Lord is for those who fear Him, and He makes known to them His covenant” Psalm 25:14

 

When I was 15 I wrote a list of character traits I hoped my future husband would have. The first one on the list was that he would love Jesus passionately. I knew I didn’t want to marry a man who simply said they were a “Christian.” I didn’t want a guy who lived like everyone else, except just avoided the “big sins” a little more. I wanted to be with a man whose very heart longed for Jesus. A man who adored, worshipped, honored, and lived his life for the Lord. A man whose heart belonged to Jesus. I wanted a God-lover.

 

When asked what the greatest commandment is in the bible, Jesus said it was to love Him with every fiber of our being. He is after the heart and wants all of us. He longs to be with us, to have fellowship with us. He made us for relationship, the greatest being relationship with Him.

 

I daily pray this for Jeff. That he would love Jesus with all of his heart, soul, mind & strength. I know that if Jeff is pursuing Jesus as his main desire, it will actually free him up to love and pursue me more fervently also. I ask the Lord to draw him near; that he would seek Him and spend time at His feet, talking with His Savior.

 

Why? Because this is the sweetest thing we can possibly do as a believer. The beauty of the gospel is that we get God. He has torn the veil and invited us into deep intimacy with Him. I long for Jeff to stay close to our Lord, in a world that does everything possible to distract and drag us away. I long for Jeff to deeply know Jesus- not just in a scholarly sense, but a deep, intimate, knowledge like one has with a spouse.

 

I also pray this because this is the cry for my heart. Often I find myself being distracted by the world (busyness, loving other things more than Christ, etc) and missing out on the gift of deep intimacy with Christ. My heart’s cry is that I would stay close to Him and love Him with all my heart. All my mind. All my strength. And all my soul.

 

And as our men grow to love Jesus more, they will grow to love us more. For our love for people flows out of Christ’s love for us.

Ladies, does your man put God first in his life? Does he love Jesus with all his heart, mind, and soul?

14 Comments

  1. Bhoranie
    July 18, 2012

    Great post Alyssa! I have the same desire, to have my future husband love the Lord more than me!

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    • brit
      July 18, 2012

      This was a great post! So many single christian women get so desperate that they resort to a man who just goes to church.Not me!I want a guy who is so passionate about Jesus. I wish the best for you too.

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  2. Shanee
    July 18, 2012

    Really needed to hear this one…. I’m about to pray for the man in my life right now!!!

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  3. Joshua Baez
    July 18, 2012

    Wow, deeply embedded. Well put together. My girlfriend (soon-to-be fiancé) has also driven me to find Jesus and still today I worship and serve him as my first love. I am now a proud pentecostal and a faithful
    Servant of our lord. Thanks for the blog I
    Enjoyed it. God Bless you and Jeff, I look up to him !
    – Josh B.

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  4. Vivian
    July 18, 2012

    Beautiful post. Definitely inspired me to pray daily for my fiance. Thank you.

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  5. Holly
    July 18, 2012

    I was just reading the chapter on Priorities in “Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Omartian. Then I looked on facebook and saw this post! God must be reminding me to pray for my husband daily! :) Thanks for the post!

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  6. Barbara
    July 18, 2012

    I really enjoyed reading this, Alyssa. Nearly word-for-word what I’ve been praying for when it comes to marriage. The fact that God blessed you with exactly what you asked for reassures me that if I’m patient and wait on Him to send “the One”, I, too, will find these qualities in my soul mate. I know He’ll add to our relationship when the time is right. And even if He doesn’t, I’m beyond content with the love I’ve found in Him, and Him alone. <3

    May God continue to bless you, Jeff, and your covenant together.

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  7. Valeria
    July 18, 2012

    Thank you for everything you post! really helped me in the important characteristics in a man :) God Bless

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  8. Kerrigan
    July 18, 2012

    Just beautiful! Thank you so much, Alyssa! I needed this.

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  9. Maegan
    July 18, 2012

    Thank you for this Alyssa!! I’m 17 and have been with my boyfriend for a while and this is exactly what I needed. He has kinda been pushed away from the Lord for a while now because of his parents arent a great example… I want him to love the Lord more than me and life its self. I pray for him, but never really knew how to pray for him. You dont know how much this has helped!!!!! Thank you so much!!! :) I love yours’ and Jeff’s posts!
    -Maegan

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  10. Huong
    July 18, 2012

    Alyssa,
    Every word you have said is what I have thought about ever since I came to know the Lord almost a decade ago. People always ask me why I’m “still single.” I am patiently waiting for the Lord to deliver me a man who loves Him with all of his all. My desire is that my future guy love God more than he loves me. When that is the case, I can only imagine what my future husband’s love for me is like. Thank you for letting the world know that it’s important to not only love God with all of our heart, mind, and soul, but to love someone who loves Christ more.

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  11. Kris
    July 18, 2012

    Since three weeks I am praying daily for my future husband. It’s definitely worth it all. It strengths my own faith. The holy spirit is a great leader for giving you an idea what you could pray for him. Anyway you have to pray for your husband when you are married. So it’s the best to start right now :)

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  12. Sue O'Brien
    July 19, 2012

    I enjoyed reading these. Thank you! . . . I saw the 2nd and 3rd part of this post, but how do I see the first one? . . . The Greatest Thing You Can Do For The Men In Your Life

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